Imparting Success To The Next Generation – Part 13 Lawson and Barbara Perdue (Updated)

  Praise God friends, I’m so glad that you tuned in today, we’re sharing from my wife Barbara’s book, Imparting Success to the Next Generation. And you don’t wanna miss this broadcast. We’ve been sharing on the things that we taught our children priorities in life so that they could go out and be a success. And today we’re specifically talking about, teaching our children how to love their family. Blessings. Friends, it’s great to have you with us today. I am so glad to have Barbara. We’ve been sharing this week on imparting success to the next generation. And we’ve specifically been talking about the priorities that we imparted to our children. And yesterday we talked about the value of the word of God and how valuable the word of God is. And that we taught our children not only to value it, but that the word of God is the final authority. Today we’re talking about imparting success to our children by teaching them in a practical way how to love their family. And you know, we got this actually from the Jewish culture that they impart to their children these three things. Number one, love the word of God. Number two, love your family. And number three, a practical trade, which we’ll be sharing on later this week. So open your heart. The word’s gonna be good, Barbara, you can jump into the work.

 

  So we’re gonna jump right in. So if you have your Bible, turn with us to the book of Colossians 3. And we’re going to start in verse 17 and read through 24. So again, Colossians 3:17-24. And I like how this starts out. It says, “In whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him.” So whatever you do.

 

  Amen.

 

  We’re talking about loving our family, teaching our children this, it goes on in verse 18. It says, “Wife, submit to your own husbands as it is fitting to the Lord. Husbands love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. Children obey your parents in all things. For this is well pleasing to the Lord. Fathers do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged, bond servants or in the workplace where to obey in all things. You’re masters according to the flesh. And not with just eye service as men pleasers, but in sincerity of heart fearing God.” And then I love how it’s sandwiched. It wraps it up again. We have all these relationships in the home and then how we are to be in the workplace. And then it says, “In whatever you do, do it heartily as to the Lord, not to men, knowing that from the Lord you receive the reward of the inheritance for you serve the Lord Christ.”

 

  You know, Barbara, that is fantastic teaching. And Paul, when he wrote this letter, I mean he said, you know, a mouth, I mean there’s so much. He’s talking about our relationship with God, our relationship with our spouse, our relationship with our children, and our relationship with work. So he is talking about all those things. And then he says, “Whatever you do, do it heartily as to the Lord.” You know, the way that we live out our relationship with the Lord is through relationships with the people, in the home, with our spouse, with our children and relationships at work. And then he says, “Know this” in verse 24, “That of the Lord, you will receive the reward of inheritance, for you serve the Lord Christ.” And people need to realize this, when I am serving, when I’m working, whatever I’m doing in my family, with my children, with my work, it’s as to the Lord. And the Lord is the one that’s gonna reward me. And it really speaks to us about attitudes. Attitudes that we have at home, attitudes towards our spouse, towards our children and attitudes at work. And you know, if you get a bad attitude, it’s gonna be really hard for the Lord to bless you like he wants to.

 

  You know, both of us were really raised by parents, specifically our fathers that we had chores and we get to help, you know, you get to be part of the team and it was just expected that you would help around the home. And when we first had our children, when they were younger, we lived out in the country. So there was a lot of, you know, country chores to do. We had bottle fed calves, we had cattle and things like that. And they helped in the church. But even as we moved here to Colorado Springs more in this city, we still had expected them to do things. They helped around the house. We had the house broke up in zones and each, you know, son was in charge of a zone,

 

  Right. And you know what, you know, our dads, basically, your dad and my dad were a lot alike and we’re kind of raised old school, but my dad had tell me, “You know what, you’re gonna get happy or I’m gonna give you a reason to get happy.” You know, in other words, he made us keep a good attitude. And I know you’ve talked about your dad that same way. He didn’t let you pout around. And my dad sure didn’t let us pout around, you know, and I think that helps kids and it helps people as a whole. We have to guard our attitude. And you know what, if you get a wrong attitude, it’s hard for God to bless you like he wants to.

 

  I wanted to just jump in really quick and there’s so much, like you said, there’s so much in here and we also wanna read in some other things. But I really wanna speak specifically right now to the young parents, the young mothers, when it says, “And whatever you do, do it as unto the Lord.” I remember those years, honey, of having a young family. Our children, again, we had three sons, when the youngest was born, the oldest was three and a half. So there is a lot going on in our home, a lot of diapers, a lot of things, if you’ve noticed, in the family, in the home, and even in the workplace, a lot of what we can do, you could say has repetition. You can do chores on one day and the the next day your house can be dusty again. Trash still needs taken out, diapers still need change. And how do we wake up happy? And it’s just like, you know, all those years that I was in that season of life, you could say changing diapers, it seemed, you know, people ask me, I’d go to church and people ask me, “What did you do this week?” And how do you glamorize, helping you with the cattle out in the manure, scrubbing the toilets and changing diapers? You know, I’m like the CEO of you know, just the cleanup crew. But you know, I did that. I did that for years as unto the Lord. And I know that God was watching and he was pleased. All those things that nobody else has seen you do, but God sees you. He was in the home with me and he saw me serving our family and doing those things that again for years, a lot of that is just very repetitious.

 

  Well, and you valued that. You valued your relationship with me, you valued your relationship with our children and you really made them a very high priority. And I know other people when we were younger would almost look down on you different things. But actually when our son, Peter was about a junior or senior in high school, Bobby Jean Merck, who’s went home to be with the Lord today. But she came and she gave a word over you and she said that you had taught your children and raised not three children, but four, I’m kind of like a big kid. And that, you know, in the near future, God was gonna open a door and you were gonna teach this to people around the world. And I mean it was like three months after she gave you that word that Andrew Wommack came and asked you to teach this in Charis Bible College. And you taught this class and we’re actually teaching your notes from this class and we have a free syllabus on this. It’s a available online, we’ve made it available, all of this teaching absolutely free, but you know, we have it there. But Andrew came and asked you to teach this and you taught this for like 10 years at Charis Bible College here in Colorado and other places around the nation. And exactly what Bobby Jean shared with you happened. And it was like, you know, you gave your life to serve me, you were actually serving Christ through serving me and serving the kids. But then God has now multiplied that and your teaching is going around the world. And so it took some time and you know, many times the things of God, you know, take time. And I think a lot of people fail because they have unrealistic expectation. But you just did it as unto the Lord and God has blessed it.

 

  I like what you just brought out because again, this is in Colossians, everything we’re teaching this week, it’s in the Bible. So I get pumped and excited. And I like what you said, the Lord is the one who blesses. And that’s exactly what it says in Colossians 3:24. “Knowing that from the Lord, you’ll receive the reward of the inheritance for you serve the Lord Christ.”

 

  Yeah. I’m gonna touch a sacred cow in this scripture, it says in verse 18, “Wives submit yourselves under your own husband as is fit in the Lord.” You know, submission doesn’t mean blind obedience. Submission is like an attitude of respect, right? It’s a attitude of heart. So, and it really says, as is fit unto the Lord. It doesn’t mean, you know, wives totally just do whatever your husband, because there’s some ungodly husbands, and you brought this up, you know, as we were preparing for this teaching this morning that you remembered years ago, and this had to happen, you know, over 30 years ago. But we were counseling a couple from another church who had separated and this man said, “You are my wife and you’re supposed to obey me.” And I was like, you know, 25 years old or something. And I just looked at him and said, “Well, you’re not submitted to God or anybody, so why should she submit to you?” And man, he just got mad and stomped out of the place. We were actually with another pastor’s wife where the, you know, their pastor’s wife and he hadn’t been going to church or doing anything and in 10 minutes he came back in and he said, “I wanna make my marriage work and I’m willing to listen.” And you know what, God totally turned their family around, you know, when he got his heart right before the Lord. But sometimes, you know what, we as men are saying, “You submit,” but it’s really an attitude of heart. And it says, “As is fit in the Lord.” And I would never ask you to do something that I don’t feel like God would have you do it, ladies, if you’re watching and your husband ask you to do something would cause you to violate your relationship with Him or the word you don’t do that, you just, you do as is fit to the Lord. Then it says, husbands, and this really spoke to me, “You love your wives and don’t be bitter against them.” You know, I know some husbands that get bitter and listen, we need to love our wives and we’ll be talking in the last half of this broadcast about how that love has really worked out. But don’t get bitter. You know, guard your house, do this as to the Lord, and then children, obey your parents in the Lord. You know, you respect your parents and they are given to you by God. And when we have this attitude of respect, you know, working between us, right husbands and wives, and then our children have an attitude of respect. And husbands, if you’re not loving your wives right, it’s gonna be hard for your children to respect you. We’ll talk about what that love looks like in the last half of this broadcast. But you know, wives, you keep an attitude of respect towards God and your husband and then that will be worked out in your children’s lives.

 

  Really these scriptures are for safety in the Christian home. And it’s when things are twisted, you know, I know we’ve talked about this, sometimes it’s twisted as if women are supposed to submit to all men. This is talking about in a marriage relationship in a godly marriage relationship.

 

  And it’s not just a man in general, it’s to your own husband. And that’s how the scripture presents it. And we as men need to keep that right. You know, praise God. So we’re gonna be back in the last half of this broadcast. We’re gonna talk more about how this works. If you need prayer, make sure you call us. We have trained prayer ministers that are waiting right now to receive your calls and we’ll be back in a few seconds. Blessings. Hi friends. We’ve been teaching from Barbara’s book, Imparting Success to the Next Generation. These are principles that will help you establish a strong marriage, a strong home, and be a blessing to your children. We’ve also made the syllabus for this free of charge on our website at charischristiancenter.com. Blessings.

 

  I’ve been redeemed from the curse, so that means I’m redeemed from death, I’m redeemed from slavery, I’m redeemed from sickness and I’m redeemed from poverty. And I just am so thankful to be here to learn these kind of things because I’ve never been taught this before.

 

  Friends, I’m so glad you stayed with us. We are sharing today on imparting success to the next generation. And we’re specifically talking about values that we taught our children. And we really got this from the Hebrew culture, but number one, we taught them how to love the word of God. Number two, we taught them, you love your family and what does that look like? And Paul really explained it, in the first half of broadcast we shared from Colossians 3. And I thought, “Man, this is powerful.” And in this half of the broadcast we’ll be sharing from Ephesians 5. And we’re gonna start in verse 21 to verse 24. So Barbara, you can go ahead and read that if you’d like to.

 

  Okay, so Ephesians 5:21-24 and it says, I like how it starts off, “Submitting to one another in the fear of God,” submitting to one another. Then verse 22 goes on, “Wives submit to your own husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of the church and He is the savior of the body, therefore just as a church is subject to Christ. So let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”

 

  Amen. So the very first scripture I love, ’cause that’s again talking about our attitude, he says, “Submit yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” When we respect our relationship with God it’s gonna cause some things to happen in our marriage. And he talks first of all in this scripture to the wives and he says, “You have this attitude of respect towards your husbands.” And really that’s all he says in Ephesians 5. He says it here in the first part of this. He also says it down here in verse 33. He says, “Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself and the wife, see that she reverence or respect her husband.” Barbara, why don’t you comment on what you think that looks like

 

  To respect and honor your husband. Again, it’s a condition of the heart, and it’s really honoring my relationship with God, my father, and honoring my relationship with you. And I’m aware that when I met and married you, you were in love with God. And you have a relationship with him. This is really talking about submitting to one another, but God is over the both of us as we submit to him,

 

  I think it’s talking about, again, an attitude of heart. And we have to just watch our attitude of heart. So really as we study this scripture here, there’s two things and it says, “Wives respect your husband,” right? Or, and then it says, “Husbands love your wives.” I’m gonna talk about in a little bit what that looks like when we read these scriptures because there’s different ways that we need to love our wives, husbands. But when we look at this, psychology tells us the number one need in a woman is to be loved. The number one need in a man is to be respected. But where do we get that sense of self-worth and that sense of love? Well, you are really good about seeing what God sees in me and building me up and looking at the good, right? And then so, but if I don’t understand my worth, if I don’t understand how God values me, what God sees in me, no, you or no one else could be able to take care of that. So I need to see the value that God ascribes to me. I’m accepted in the beloved. I’m blessed, right? So on and so forth. Wives, you need to get your sense of being loved from God because Barbara, if you didn’t get your sense of being loved from God, I would never be able to love you enough. And so you get that from God first of all. But then as we read through this, I’m gonna read here in verse 25 to verse 33, it’s telling us, “Husbands love your wives.”

 

  I was gonna share one more thing because you asked me a question. So it brought, I had to think a minute because it brought another scripture to me because I wanna talk about, again, the prophetess that had a word over me. But this isn’t Proverbs 31:12. I’m a person that I read the word and apply it in my life and it works. And in Proverbs 31:12, it says, “She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.” And if you remember when this prophet is by the name of Bobby Jean work came, she brought this out when she’s talking about that, you have said in your heart that you’ll do your husband good and not evil all the days of your life. And she’s like, “Great will be your reward.” And there’s just things that have miraculously come to pass in our lives that was just a gift and a blessing from God. And one of them that just comes to my mind is, you know, a number of years ago, you wanted to move, there was a financial downturn. I was happy where we were, but just in really, I believe the Lord gives us the desires of a heart. I believe that was a desire he put on your heart because number one, it was a good financial move. And number two, it ended up to be really a reward. I believe that that word came to pass because the home we ended up purchasing, we got it for $67 a square foot.

 

  Which is a miracle.

 

  And recently we were talking to a gentleman who does things with homes and whatever, and he says, “You can’t even find a home.” He was talking about specifically here in Colorado, Colorado Springs. He’s like, “You can’t even find a home for $67 a square foot.” So, you know, as we read these scriptures and that we see that God is a rewarder, like we even read in Colossians 3:24, that he is a rewarder, when we put these priorities in place and teach them to our children, that He does see, He sees you keep bringing out the condition of our heart. And I know you have a little bit more to read in Ephesians,

 

  But as we read through this, he says in verse 25, “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it.” He says in verse 26, and I’m gonna read through verse 33 really quickly. He says that He might, “Christ might sanctify and cleanse the church with the washing of the water by the word that Jesus may present the church to Himself, a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish.” Then in verse 28, Paul says, “So men to love their wives as their own bodies, he who loves his wife, loves himself.” Somebody wrote a book years ago, men or husbands, do yourself a favor, love your wives. Praise God. He says, “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh, but nourishes it and cherishes it, even as the Lord, the church, for we are members of His body and of His flesh and of His bones for this cause a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and they will be one flesh. This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ in the church. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself and the wife, see that she reverence her husband.” So he says, “Wives respect your husbands.” And then he says, “Husbands love your wives.” And he says, “Three ways we’re to love our wives as Christ loved the church, spiritually.” Jesus loved us as the church when we were making all the wrong choices and doing all the wrong things. So His love for us is unconditional. We’re to love our wives unconditionally. Then he says, secondly, “Love your wives as yourself,” your soul, see, we are a spirit, we possess a soul and we live in a body. The soul part is the part of you that is self-conscious, right? So you used to say when we were younger, right? “I just want you to be my best friend.” You don’t say that anymore because I think we are best friends and we spend a lot of time with each other. We really enjoy one another. We have this relationship with each other. We are friends, we communicate about life, we communicate about different things. And then he says, “Husbands love your wives.” Not only does Christ love the church spiritually, not only emotionally, right, communicating with each other, right? Really sharing your heart, sharing your life. But he says, “As your own body,” no man ever hated his own physical body, but he nourishes it and cares about it. You nourish and care, you know, for your wife. And this is something that we taught our children. This may be old school, but we have three boys. And we taught them, “Listen, your wife is your responsibility and you’re gonna be the provider for your home. Your children are your responsibility.” And I know when I married you, I was young, but I took it as a great responsibility. But then when our son Aaron was born, I thought, “This individual is completely dependent on me.” And I didn’t look like Aaron. Like, well this is, I looked at him like he is a child that God has given me and God has given me that responsibility. Now, listen, I’m not against wives working outside the home and different things, but at the same point in time, men need to take responsibility. And I think when we take that responsibility, then God blesses us and helps us. And so provide for your wife. And you know, we didn’t always make a lot of money, but just like you said, God has blessed us and helped us so much. There’s really no way that you can explain what’s happened in our life except that it is the blessing of God. And so this is what love looks like, spiritually as Christ loved the church unconditionally. Christ loved the church making all the wrong choices, doing all the wrong things. Emotionally, becoming best friends, communicating with one another, and then physically and financially providing for the care of our family.

 

  Yeah. And I just wanna jump in and share, I love to share words of wisdom, especially for the moms. And so earlier I shared specifically for the younger moms and the season of where you have lots of diapers and you’re just so busy from sun up to sundown, do it as unto the Lord. But as you were sharing in our relationship, becoming, you know, more of best friends, you know, this is something I talked to you about that I noticed as our children were in high school and getting ready for that next season of becoming empty nesters, I saw the moms who went on and were healthy and happy that they were already beginning to plan as their children were juniors and seniors in high school. “What is my life gonna look like after the last one leaves the home?” And so I had already went there in my mind because as you mentioned for me, and I know a lot of the moms here in our church, a lot of moms I know we give 199%, but what is my life gonna look at as a last one Leaves the home? And we have to begin to prepare our heart what that looks like to let them release them and let them go. And how we’re gonna, you know, really work can continue to work on our lives as a husband and wife and be able to live as empty nesters and not, you know, mourning a loss, but you know, really celebrate them as they go on.

 

  Well, and God really spoke to you, when Aaron, our son, was getting ready to go to college in Pennsylvania and you said, “I’m gonna miss him.” And the Lord said, “No, you celebrate them going and developing.” And all of our sons have went out in different places, different areas, got a good education and God has blessed them. And so, you know, you’ve seen people and you’ve said, you know, “I’ve seen this in the world and I’ve seen it in the church.” And so we really need to guard our hearts and not let the enemy take advantage of us in those areas.

 

  Yeah.

 

  Praise God. So I’m so glad that you’ve tuned in. And you know what, we have Barbara’s book, we have a lot of teaching on this. It’s available on our website. We have actually this entire syllabus on imparting success to the next generation. And we’ve made it free on the website so you can download it. We also have prayer ministers. Maybe you feel like you need prayer today, for your marriage, for your home. Maybe you need prayer, you know, for healing or salvation, whatever that is. We wanna just encourage you to give us a call today. We’d love to hear from you. And if you wanna become a partner, we’d appreciate that. It helps us take the word around the world and I’ll be back right after this break.

 

  Hi everyone. We have a special announcement for you.

 

  We’re having a camp meeting and it’s for the whole family. We have special kids teaching, special youth teaching, special adult teaching, special guests, and special worship. It’s a great event and you don’t wanna miss it. I believe it will be a blessing to you and your family. So come see us.

 

  It is important to keep God first, family second, and our ministry third. In a busy world. It is essential that we understand and act upon these priorities. Raising kids to love the word, value family, and live with purpose will bring them great success. Get your copy of Barbara’s new book, Imparting Success to the Next Generation for $15.99. Go to charischristiancenter.com and order yours to today.

 

  Friend, we don’t want to leave this broadcast today without giving you the opportunity to pray and surrender your life to the lordship of Jesus Christ. Pray with me right now. Heavenly Father, I believe that Jesus Christ is your son. I believe that Jesus died for my sins. I believe that you raised Him from the dead on the third day and made Him Lord, and I surrender my life to you in Jesus name.

 

  Thanks for watching Grace for today. This broadcast has been made possible by our faithful partners. If you would like to become a partner, need prayer or have a question, please call us at 418-4000 or to partner online, go to charischristiancenter.com/give. You can ride us at P.O. Box 63733, Colorado Springs, Colorado, 80962. See you next time on Grace for today.